When does sex feel empty?

Depressed after sex

KELVIN GROOVE. No, this is not about sex, which is so bad that women inevitably cry afterwards.

Even if this is probably the most common reason for a bad mood after the sexual act, the post-coital blues or post-coital dysphoria mean something else: the feeling of being sad for no apparent reason, an overwhelming melancholy, but also sudden fear or unfounded Aggression and anger immediately after the sexual act.

Fear of attachment, insecurity, loss of control

Australian and Swiss psychologists around Dr. Robert Schweitzer from Queensland University in Kelvin Groove (Sexual Medicine 2015; epub 5.10.15).

How often women are affected by the post-coital blues is largely unclear. Initial studies indicate that around every third woman has had such an experience, 5-10 percent seem to be affected regularly.

The researchers led by Schweitzer now wanted to determine the prevalence on the basis of their own study.

To this end, they were able to attract almost 200 heterosexual students (average age 26 years) who filled out a questionnaire online via an advertisement at Australian universities. This contained, among other things, the "Female Sexual Functioning Index (FSFI)" with 19 questions, in addition, you should answer two questions about postcoital dysphoria.

"Have you ever had a problem in your life after consensual sex because you inexplicably felt close to tears or very sad?" and "Have you had this problem in the past four weeks?" The women could also indicate how often they got the blues.

Frequency underestimated

The results: Almost half of the young women (46 percent) could remember having been afflicted by post-coital dysphoria, 5 percent had the blues in the past four weeks and 2 percent said they mostly or always after Having sex inexplicably feeling sad.

Overall, there was a certain connection with the FSFI value: women with other sexual problems often felt dysphoric after the act, even those with experiences of abuse in childhood - that was 20 percent - were more affected. In contrast, there was no correlation with age or duration of the relationship.

The frequency of the post-coital blues has been far underestimated so far, Schweitzer and co-workers interpret the results. Little is known about the causes either, so much research still needs to be done on this phenomenon.