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Learning to discipline: 10 golden tips for maximum self-discipline

Do you know these people ...

  • ... who jump out of bed at 5 a.m. every morning?
  • ... who do sports regularly?
  • … eat healthy?
  • ... neither smoke nor drink?
  • ... are totally successful professionally?
  • ... and with all that it looks like you have a lot of FUN with it ???

Do you want the same?

Then I have just the thing for you here!

In this article I am going to tell you the secret of disciplined people betray.

Here's how to:

And don't be afraid - it will cost you a lot less effort and overcoming than you might think now, because ...

Self-discipline is easy!

Once you know exactly how discipline works and how you can discover and uncover your (enormous) inner resources, then the rest will be a breeze ...

And the best thing about it:

These tips, which I'm about to tell you, can be used both to install GOOD habits in your life and to get rid of BAD ones forever!

Sounds good?

Then let's get started ...

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Discipline = the key to happiness and success

Discipline is THE driver for success. If you want to achieve something in life, you can't do it without discipline.

And I'm not just saying that, it's actually scientifically proven. There are studies that show that discipline is far more important than intelligence to your success. Yes, even more important than talent!

The Beatles For example, they rehearsed for hours every day and played in front of an audience EVERY EVENING for years before they became famous.

And Michael Jordan, perhaps the best basketball player of all time, once said about his success:

The only thing that sets me apart from my opponents is that I made 1000 times more throws than everyone else ...

So you see - talent alone is useless. Only those who approach their tasks in a really disciplined manner will be successful in the end.

But now the good news:

Discipline is NOT innate. Discipline is not inherited either.

Rather:

Discipline is trained! Every day. In a few very simple, small steps ...

And how exactly that works, I'll tell you now:

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The secret to more self-discipline

Now I want to show you how discipline works exactly and how you too can approach your things from today with a lot more self-discipline ...

First of all, please make the following very important point clear:

You ARE already disciplined! You already have all the self-discipline you need to be successful!

I beg your pardon?!?“Are you thinking right now?

Let me explain:

You get up every morning, you go to work, school or university, you feed the cat, go out with the dog, water your flowers, brush your teeth, take out the garbage, check your e-mails ...

You need discipline for all of this. And as you can see, you already have it. However (so far) only with the things ...

  1. that you are used to
  2. that you enjoy
  3. or where you know what you're doing it for!

These three points are ULTRA important!

Because if one or more of these points are fulfilled, then the rest is usually very easy for you!

Small thought experiment on this:

Think back to things in your life that haven't gone so well before. Where you had to overcome yourself like hell every time to tackle them. Wasn't it exactly the case that at least one, if not ALL THREE of the above-mentioned factors were missing? It was probably like this ...

The secret now is to make sure of EVERYTHING that you want to get used to (or wean off) from now on,
  1. that you enjoy it
  2. that it becomes a habit or
  3. that you know exactly why you are doing it

My following tips will now help you to approach ALL of your projects with fun, to make a habit or to fill them with meaning in such a way that the rest is super easy for you ...

Here we go:

The 10 golden tips for maximum self-discipline

Tip 1. The sandwich trick - tackling difficult things with ease

As already said above - what we are used to is easy for us. We don't even think about it much anymore, we just DO it. It doesn’t cost us a new overcoming every time, because our brain needs much less energy for usual things.

There is now a simple trick how you can implement new things much faster and easier. And it goes as follows:

"Sandwiches" your new, good habit between an old and bad habit.

Link them to what you already do on a regular basis!

Small example:

I wanted to get fitter myself and feel more comfortable in my body. So I decided to ALWAYS do a few squats or a mini relaxation exercise when I go to the bathroom.

Do you see how that works? Great!

Here are a few more ideas:

  • Do you want to eat healthier? Put the sweets with the fruit ... if you want to snack, eat something healthy FIRST and THEN the chocolate - or leave it out
  • Do you want to do more sport? Put your running shoes next to the garbage ... if you take them out anyway, you can go for a run right away
  • Do you want to learn something new? ... for example a foreign language - put the book on your pillow ... learn 3 vocabulary every evening (after a year you can learn over 1,000 new words!)
  • Do you want to go through life more relaxed? Put the yoga mat next to your bed ... so you literally "fall" on it when you get up
  • Do you want more inner peace? Put the meditation pillow in the bathroom ... there you go to shower and brush your teeth anyway, then you can meditate for 5 minutes

All right. You understand the concept. Now it's your turn!

Think about which habit you want to get used to and what you can link it to.

And then put it into action right away!

For example, if you want to read more instead of watching TV, take the remote control to a remote corner of your apartment NOW and place a book on the coffee table instead.

Find a link for your very personal topic and "sandwiches“It between pre-existing habits.

And I promise you:

With this method you will automatically outsmart your inner weaker self and thus tackle your new habits much easier.

Tip 2. Always start small

It is extremely helpful to start as small as possible.

Why?

If we take on too much right from the start, it is often overwhelming. Either we leave it right away or we don't keep it up permanently. Think again: In order for you to pull through something in the long term, you MUST enjoy it!

Here is a practical example from my own life:

The first time I went running, I ran exactly 200 meters.

Yes, you read that right. Two hundred meters!

Why didn't I start with a kilometer? Because that would have totally overwhelmed me! I would have had to torture myself to do that and the next day it would have been extremely difficult to go running again. After a week at the latest, the desire would have passed and I would have stopped again (that's by the way one of the biggest mistakesthat people do when they want to get more athletic - they totally overwhelm themselves and then quickly stop ...)

Instead, I ran as far as I could. 200 metres. Then I stood panting on the side of the road like an asthma-sick walrus ...

But, you know what?

I enjoyed it and felt like doing the same thing again the next day. Then I even managed 600 meters. That was MUCH MORE fun. I was so motivated to improve a little bit every day that after 2 months I was able to run 3 kilometers!

So my friend - in small steps to the goal. This is the way!

Your action step:

Take your own project NOW and think about which first small step you can start TODAY, so that it is fun for you and not overwhelmed.

- Do you want to meditate? Start with 5 minutes a day.
- Do you want to eat healthily? Start with one “eat healthy day” each week.
- Do you want to get sportier? Do ONE push-up for a week, then two the next week, and so on ...

Here you get even more tips for maximum motivation and perseverance: Perseverance: 5 tips to stick with it, even when it's tough

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Tip 3. Focus on your goal - the mental image technique

Goals are extremely important to a successful life. If you don't see any point in what you're doing, you'll soon give up because of a lack of long-term motivation.

Many people do not have a clear goal.

They don't even know WHY they actually want to do something ... and therefore don't stick with it for long.

It is therefore extremely important that you find out exactly why you want to do something. Get clear about your goal!

For example, do you want to do more sport ...

  • to get physically fitter?
  • Or to look better?
  • To lose weight?
  • To get recognition?
  • To have a balance to your work?

What is the goal? Find out. Find your motivation behind it and best write it down. This way you can remind yourself of your goal again and again if you run out of pleasure in between.

When you have found your goal, visualize it every day.

For this I recommend the technique of mental images:

You take 10 minutes a day (preferably first thing in the morning), close your eyes and imagine as intensely as possible how you have achieved your goal.

See yourself ... and most importantly, FEEL how it feels when you have achieved exactly what you want to achieve. You can find detailed instructions for this technique here: -> Mental images

Really do this EVERY day. You will notice that afterwards you are immediately in a completely different state and have a lot more desire to do something for your goal.

Tip 4. The right time - find your "high time"

Everyone has different work phases during the day. These differ from person to person. For example, there is the morning grouch who finds it difficult to get up at 5 o'clock ... but who can then work productively well into the night. On the other hand, it is easiest for me to work things off in the morning ...

So it is important that you find out for yourself when certain things are easier for you and then do them EXACTLY THEN.

Don't bother yourself with going running every morning just because "everyone does it." If you feel much better in the evening or during your lunch break, then just run!

You will see, at YOUR right time, things will be a lot easier for you.

Tip 5. The rhythm is the key

The right rhythm is also important in order to carry out your project regularly and permanently.

As already said - we find it easy to do the familiar. If you only do something once a month, it won't become a habit anytime soon. Even if you do something very irregularly, your brain has a hard time turning it into a routine.

You then have to motivate and overcome yourself again and again.

Find a regular rhythm that you then stick to.

In the beginning, you can try out a little how it works best for you:

Meditate daily, exercise twice a week, eat healthy every Monday, read every other day instead of watching TV ... find your perfect rhythm.

And then: Keep it!

This will help you and your brain quickly to a new habit that no longer demands discipline. Once you have reached this state of lightness, you can of course increase the rhythm if you like.

Tip 6. The throw-away trick - resist temptation easily

"Do not lead me into temptation" it says so beautifully ...

And we all know how easily you can be distracted or seduced by things that feel much better than your new resolutions. Be it the chocolate that is still in the kitchen cupboard, the pack of cigarettes in the handbag or the cozy sofa instead of the fitness center - as soon as we have these possibilities within reach, it takes a lot more effort to resist them.

Therefore make it easier for you:

Throw away everything you want to do without. Get rid of the sweets, cigarettes, and whatever else you want to get rid of from your surroundings.

Also ask your family, friends, and colleagues to keep these things away from you in the future. “Out of sight, out of mind” is what it means.

And so that you don't have to dispose of your sofa to go to the fitness center instead, I have a special tip:

Put your sports bag in your car in the morning and drive DIRECTLY to work out after work. So you won't even be tempted to make yourself comfortable at home. You do that AFTER the fitness center 🙂

Tip 7. The commitment tactic - get help

Sometimes we don't manage to defeat our weaker self on our own. We quickly find excuses to be undisciplined. Nobody notices ...

In this case, outside support is extremely helpful. Family or friends can give us courage, motivate us or just “kick our asses”.

Find an ally today and share your resolutions with them.
  • If you've made an appointment to go jogging with a friend, you won't find excuses so easily why you CANNOT go running today ...
  • If you implement a healthy diet together with your partner, it is much easier than if he sits in front of you every evening with pizza or kebab while you mumble your salad.

The more people know about your new venture, the harder it will be for you to give up. Because then you would have to justify yourself to everyone. Stupid feeling.

On the other hand, everyone will ask you regularly about your progress, which you can then enthusiastically report. THAT feels good and gives you an additional motivational kick.

You are then proud of yourself AND you get confirmation from outside.

Tip 8. Reward yourself - regularly

It is very important that you reward yourself for every small step. This will keep you motivated and the whole thing is just a lot more fun. The prospect of the next reward is often a stronger drive than the great, distant goal.

Do this right now:

Take a piece of paper and pen and write down what you want to be more disciplined in from tomorrow and what you will reward yourself with.

For example:

"From tomorrow I will do 15 minutes of sport every day and as a reward I will go to the sauna on Sunday!"

So think in concrete terms of what you will do yourself good when you have reached X or Y.

Make sure that the time until the reward is not too long. Regularly celebrate small stage victories on the way to the big goal.

Tip 9. Reach your goal with breaks

Really ALWAYS being disciplined is no fun in the long run. You then feel stressed and run the risk of losing interest and giving up your project completely.

Therefore:

Treat yourself to an exception every now and then. Take a rest. Relax yourself…

Plan your break very specifically from the start: Note the date in the calendar. This will help you avoid getting weak every now and then.

Write what you are indulging in and then look forward to it. You will be amazed how you enjoy this little break. This gives you a lot of energy to be disciplined on the other days.

Here is an example from my life:

I have made up my mind to eat healthily. But I allow myself one so-called "Cheat Day" per week. Every Sunday I eat whatever I feel like eating. You can't believe how much I look forward to it every time! That helps me enormously to be disciplined on the other 6 days and to resist the many delicious culinary temptations.

(Little hint: There are of course NO exceptions for addiction issues such as smoking. The danger here is too great that you will immediately fall back completely into your old behavior.)

Tip 10. Stay tuned - the famous 21 day rule

Scientists have found that it takes our brain at least 21 days to "establish" a new habit. A kind of routine only sets in after 21 days.

Think of your brain like a jungle. There are a couple of well-trodden paths that you can easily walk along.

However, if you want to explore a new area (= acquire a new habit), then you first have to fight your way through the thicket. Only with time does a new path emerge and it becomes easier again ...

It's the same with our habits.

That's why it's really important to stick with it for at least 21 days

Don't give up on your project after a few days.

Once you've made it through the 21 days, you don't need that much energy to tackle the matter. And thus not so much discipline. You then just do it because you are so used to it!

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Summary - Self-discipline is easy when ...

So my friend. These were my 10 tips for you that will help you approach your things with maximum discipline. Provided, of course, that you implement them.

You now know that discipline can be fun and that your new venture will become a habit in about 21 days. So, what are you waiting for?

Let's go! ... don't wait for the right moment ... don't wait until it feels good ... you brush your teeth every day and don't wait until it feels right ...

So: just do it. Just get started. And follow the tips above. And then in just a few days you will notice how it is getting easier and easier for you to stick to your things and chase your goals with full self-discipline.

Have lots of fun with it! 🙂

A few more important tips for more self-discipline

Avoid perfectionism

No one is perfect.

Even the most disciplined person lets himself go from time to time. Everyone feels the same ... and that's a good thing, because too much perfectionism makes you unhappy and in the worst case leads to depression or burnout.

So accept that you are lazy and careless at times ...
  • that you are not feeling so well either ...
  • that sometimes you don't feel like it ...
  • that there are just now and then days when nothing works

On days like this, your friends would say to you, “It's not that bad.” And that's exactly how you should treat yourself. Forgive you

Just accept these days. Do not wear yourself down with self-reproach according to the motto "But I have to do this and that now ...". This will only get you in a bad mood and when you are in a bad mood it will be even harder to get back into action.

Always remember: you don't have to be perfect. The Beatles didn't hit every note either.

So relax, allow yourself to make mistakes or weaknesses from time to time and then start again the next day full of energy.

Overcome listlessness

If you don't get going for a longer period of time, my article -> Overcome listlessness might help you.

In it, I'll tell you a few simple tricks on how to get into action and how you can take the first small steps towards self-discipline.